REMEMBER: please remember, this is REGARDLESS of age or gender, okay?
Being quiet or withdrawn.
Let’s address two things here: extrovert and introvert.
Someone could be incredibly extroverted and usually very loud, happy, always doing things, out and about on a constant basis and if they are suddenly withdrawing from the things that they usually do; maybe that’s an indication to ask them how they are going.
Someone could also be incredibly introverted, naturally quiet and withdrawn and sometimes that makes it extra difficult to distinguish between that individual doing what they normally do and acting as they usually do and that individual not being okay and actually needing a friend.
Always keep an eye out, if they are acting different, talk to them and take the opportunity to reach out, even if they are okay, simply asking could make all the difference.
Anxiousness / Worry
We can all be super anxious, stressed, and worried at times, especially in today’s world, it’s practically a given.
BUT, when it becomes a constant feeling and it begins to interfere with your everyday life, with your job, your relationships etc, it can be rather daunting.
If you notice that in someone, check up on them, talk to them and ask how they are doing, do they know why they’re feeling this way? Engage in conversation with them (as much as they allow, don’t push it).
Feeling down, depressed, unhappy
Look out for signs of loss of motivation, interest or energy in your friend/ family member/ co-worker.
If you notice this, then ask if they are okay, how they are feeling and if there is anything you can do to help.
Okay, let’s face it we all have that little devil that pops out every now and again to say hello.
But if it’s suddenly on a consistent basis, check up on your friend and see how they are going and if they are aware that they are acting out in a different manner than they usually do.
Sleeping Changes (increased or decreased sleep)
If you have noticed someone has had changes in their sleeping pattern, whether this is increased or decreased sleep, check up on them and ask if they’re okay and if they know why they’ve been sleeping more or less than usual.
Appetite Changes / Weight Fluctuations
This can be a big one, and one that can be especially noticeable when it’s a close friend or family member.
Regardless if this is an increased or decreased appetite, this will be noticeable by the amount that they are eating on a consistent basis and if they have had a noticeable weight fluctuation.
If you notice this, keep an eye on them for a little while and if it doesn’t go back to what is ‘normal’ for them, approach them and ask if they’re okay.
Using substances such as alcohol and drugs can be an indication that your friend, family or co-worker aren’t doing so well.
They may be using the substances to numb the pain or to cope.
If this is the case, approach them and see how they are going.
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, life isn’t worth living etc.
Take note if they are constantly blaming or criticising themselves, this may get worse over time and should be paid close attention to.
Negative self-talk can be an indicator of depression, and continuous negative self-talk and belief in this negative self-talk can be really detrimental to their self-esteem which can lead to more damaging things such as self-harm or suicide.
This one will be easily noticeable as it is generally easy to notice the drastic difference in someone’s attitudes and behaviours.
Have a chat with them and see where their head is at, maybe something has been really bothering them but maybe they’re in a dark place, it doesn’t hurt to ask.
Problems with thoughts, concentration and memory
This is more so a realisation on behalf of the individual, but if your friend, family member or work colleague is mentioning anything about this, please, keep a watchful eye on it.
Pay attention to behaviour, feelings, emotions, mentality, ways that they speak.